Considering how thoughtful I found your piece to be, I was hoping against hope that your affair began in the sudden burst of passion and was not preceded by exploring alternatives within the marriage. I gave you credit for first approaching the matter within the bounds of marriage. I still have one remaining area of concern. Your affair partner will never have you full-time. Will that always be acceptable to him? If he ends it, will you have the resilience to be able to mourn and then go on? Or will he be replaced?