Dear Ms. Henry:

. The man who put his arm around you without permission and stroked your exposed flesh assaulted you. Saying out loud: “Get your hands off of me, perv” should suffice. If it does not, turn to face him and kick your knee between his legs. Then, depending where it happened, call HR, the bouncer or a cop. Creeps will demean women until the cost of doing so outweighs any pleasure the creep may derive from his conduct.