I agree with both parts of your answer. All too often, two people marry without sufficient knowledge of each other. The sex is (comparatively, assuming mutual respect) easier to accommodate than the pairing of two souls. What does the other person want-not just say they want, but also manifest by words and actions? What is each prepared to give? Love honor and cherish-for life! That’s not easy! Just as large a challenge is for each person to know himself or herself. I am a lot older than you are, and I am still discovering things about myself. While that can occur with people at any age, at what point do people know enough about themselves to make a decision such as marriage? Each person is different. All we can hope for is for people to be honest with themselves and with each other before they decide to marry. Without self-knowledge and honesty, all of the other traits don’t have a chance to be relevant.