I have some questions:
1. Before you began your affair, did you ever discuss with your husband the parts of your marriage with which you were dissatisfied?
2. If so, did he express any reluctance in attempting to learn to meet your expectations?
3. Did you ever consider marital therapy before beginning your affair?
4. Did you not consider the fact that, by engaging an affair rather than pressing your husband to change, you have deprived your husband of his ability to grow as human being?
5. You justified your affair based upon the need to provide stability for your children. Do you intend to end your marriage once the last child leaves home?
6. Your affair partner clearly devotes a lot of attention to you. Have you considered the fact that, by engaging in the affair, you are depriving your affair partner's wife of his attention?
7. Although you have clearly learned to cover your tracks well, have you considered the devastating effect on both your husband and your children if your affair is discovered?