I was hesitant to say this in my last response, but I must concede that men are not taught to listen. I am sure it is both biological and sociological. From birth to family interactions, nursery school, kindergarten and onward, boys battle for dominance. That is achieved by physical and/or psychological dominance. You want to beat the others, not listen to them. It takes years of maturity for men to see the value of listening. The funny thing is that, if you think of it, men treat women as if they were men when they talk with them. Talking over them? Telling them how to solve their problems? Telling them to “suck it up”? Ladies, welcome to our world! The idea of communicating to women the feeling of being heard? It would probably be easier to teach men fluent Mandarin than to teach men empathetic listening. Nobody ever listened to us. As far as I can tell, you perfectly described female psychology as to why her talking a problem out is a critical part of her solving the problem. Unfortunately, men have to figure all of that out on their own because no one tells them what the approach should be.