This article should be mandatory reading for any couple planning to marry or to commence any long-term relationship. Your posts are always valuable, but this one I believe will do more to help the sex lives-and emotional lives-of your readers than any other of your always valuable posts. Let me only suggest that, while getting men interested in sex requires little if any effort on the part of women, there are many behaviors which can reduce male desire-especially with a wife or long-term partner. While men may put on a tough image, they often need praise or validation- not just for their (hopefully) sexual prowess, but also to be told that they are desired as well. Perhaps some male more conversant on this topic than I can ever be can be persuaded to write a companion column!