This column contains some truly excellent advice. I think many people have a problem responding in an appropriate manner when someone they know expresses distress. I find that many people-especially men, I concede-will hear distress and want to fix the problem. As you so wisely point out, being the one who listens gives the one in pain a chance to reach a resolution. The sufferer needs to speak their truth before anything else can happen. I think this column, while not intended as such, provides valuable information to couples where one of the two is confronting a problem. Great job!