When you think of it, shouldn’t that be some of the first advice given to a stalking victim-provided they have the intestinal fortitude to defend themselves and are willing to invest time to learn how to use a gun properly? The number of women killed by abusers could be cut down if the women could kill their abuser first. Unfortunately, even when the abuser manifests hostile intent, many people can’t grasp that they have to change their life in order to survive. If that affects their self-image, then they have to understand the choice was made for them by their abuser.