You sent $200,000 to an ex-husband who you divorced because he cheated on you? Why? You sent it without discussing it with your current husband? Didn’t he reasonably expect that all family money was for the family? Why not include him in the decision? Was it money you had before your marriage? Did you earn it during your marriage? Was it money your husband earned? You had no reason to send one penny. You might as well have had an affair with your ex. He should divorce you.